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With so many dating-related articles on the internet alerting us to “relationship red flags” and “negative traits to avoid in a partner”, it’s not unusual that many of us have become hyperaware of things we may need to improve in our relationship. We can even go as far as to say that some of these articles have subconsciously trained our minds into overlooking positive aspects of a relationship, which are just as important to focus on as the toxic ones. Recognizing red flags is definitely a plus, but focusing on them too much promotes premature negativity that may be detrimental for the relationship if not tackled in the beginning. By focusing on green flags, you may end up realizing how much of a positive impact your relationship has on your life and that may even encourage you to find ways to further grow as a couple. Let’s take a deeper look at some of the common green flags in a healthy, positive relationship:
1. Always communicating – even through disagreements
Everyone knows that communication is a major factor in a successful relationship. But simply communication itself won’t do it – thoughtful communication that flows both ways in the relationship is key. It’s easy to share moments of joy and happiness with your partner, but the real challenge comes when there are conflicting opinions to be discussed. Instead of sending passive-aggressive messages or giving the dreaded silent treatment, you and your partner should be able to respectfully communicate through your issues without fear of repercussions. Putting in a genuine effort to communicate with your partner, no matter how trivial the problem may be, is a huge green flag in relationships.
2. You can be your full “authentic” self
We all know how that first date usually goes. You slip into your best ‘fit, choose a meal that isn’t too messy to eat, and charm your way through the whole night with corny jokes. You’re not necessarily “not yourself”, you just want to portray the best version of yourself for that one night. In a healthy relationship, it is important to have a partner that encourages you, whether intentionally or unintentionally, to be your true self while with them. You do not feel any underlying pressure to be someone you are not; you feel comfortable letting your natural personality shine through. Why? Because you know that your partner will love you for you.
3. You feel empowered, even inspired
Self-growth is important in anyone’s life, but when you’re in a relationship, it is also just as important to be able to grow with your partner. When you get comfortable in a relationship, it is easy to resist trying new things or chasing better opportunities. The right partner will encourage you to realize your full potential and empower you to pursue your own endeavors, no matter how small they may be. They may even inspire your growth by setting the example of growing as individuals themselves.
4. Supporting your interests while having their own
It’s rare that you and your partner will have the exact same hobbies, exact same interests, and exact same habits. It’s just not realistic, but if that applies in your relationship, then all the power to you! While you and your partner may not love doing the same thing, you both respect each other’s interests and expect to spend time apart feeding those interests. Not only that, but you both happily do so, because you love seeing each other thrive and grow.
5. Willing to compromise – but not all the time
It’s impossible for you and your partner to agree on everything. A green flag in your relationship is being willing to compromise but also being able to set your own boundaries. When you are loyal and serious about your values, communicate that openly with your partner. Your partner should respect and understand that. It is all about balance and finding ways to make the relationship work as individuals and as a couple.
